The Hard Part of Blogging

When blogging is hard - the hard part of bloggingThere are so many benefits and joys to being a blogger. I love the challenge and thrill of learning, growing, stretching, writing, sharing, photographing, and posting. But there is a hard side. Just like there are many joys, there may be many aches – the comparison, the disappointment, the not pleasing everyone, the consistent push for more and for better. I guess even writing this post is one of the hard things about blogging because the thing that I find the hardest right now is authenticity.

AUTHENTICITY on the internet, in front of your eyes. One of the key values and deepest desires of my heart is to be authentic. To share my stories and to listen to others. To be a place of hope, of peace, of trust. Where life is real and messy but God is good and faithful.

But where is that line? That line between sharing my story and sharing others stories. Because yes, I want you to know my life is not perfect. Β Currently my Christmas decorations are all up and pretty (you may have seen them on my instagram) but my kitchen is still a mess from dinner the other night and I frankly am too tired to clean it up. I am tired because I turn to worry instead of trust and lay in bed at night unable to turn my mind off. I am tried because I’ve had to give up sleep and plans to watch my wonderful and energetic nieces and nephews and I question my ability to ever be a good mother to my own kids one day. I am tired because other peoples choices and actions affect me whether they want to or realize. I am tired because the world is hard, work is demanding, and I am not perfect.

I can share that with you. My experience on this side of things but I can’t be as open with you as I would if I was sitting down to coffee with you. And even so, not all my coffee date friends can know the completly workings of my life (but believe me you need people to talk to. That is why community is SO important and that group of people I meet with every week get to hear me cry and process and seek and rejoice every week are so valuable.)

I don’t know if you have felt distant from me. I don’t know if you have noticed a change in the tone of my posts and possibly the suffocation of superficial posts. I wasn’t trying to edge you on on purpose. I wasn’t trying to be a sell out. I never want to step away from the things that I value most here on this blog – Jesus, Healthily Living, Trust, and Authenticity. But these last months have been hard – for many reasons. If you read my December goals, you would have caught some of the things November surprised me with but it has been a time of the Lord really whispering to my heart and asking me “Is your value really in this? Or this? The things of the earth that our fading away? Why not Me? Please Beth, choose Me.”

Sweet friends. Life is not perfect but our sweet Savior is! He really is. He is good when there is nothing good in me. He hope even in my wandering. He is the solid foundation – the rock to which I cling.

So blogging in hard when I have to reflect my imperfections. It is hard when life is hard. It is hard because I want to invite you in but I need to protect the stories of those around me – not everything is meant to be shared over the internet. But we can still connect. We can share our struggles and unite in prayer. and we can still be authentic. Please know I am human just like you, my heart breaks in this broken world as I am sure yours does as well. I am not perfect and I don’t need to be (and neither do you!)

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9
xoxo, elizabeth

Author: Oak & Oats

  • Beth, thanks for your vulnerability. Praying for rest, peace, and God’s hand at work. I look forward to reading your blog everyday and have so enjoyed getting to know you this way. I totally relate with difficulty of finding value in blogging or the things I accomplish. But know that, although your value is not in the blog, God does reveal your value through it. Your heart for community, time with God, finding beauty in every day are just some of the ways God has revealed the value He has placed in you – and we see that here. It’s beautiful and encouraging. So thank you for this space and for you.

  • Beth, thanks for your vulnerability. Praying for rest, peace, and God's hand at work. I look forward to reading your blog everyday and have so enjoyed getting to know you this way. I totally relate with difficulty of finding value in blogging or the things I accomplish. But know that, although your value is not in the blog, God does reveal your value through it. Your heart for community, time with God, finding beauty in every day are just some of the ways God has revealed the value He has placed in you – and we see that here. It's beautiful and encouraging. So thank you for this space and for you.

  • I love your expression of your faith in the Lord. I am so glad to read this and learn a little more about you and why you choose to blog and what you choose to blog about.

  • I love your expression of your faith in the Lord. I am so glad to read this and learn a little more about you and why you choose to blog and what you choose to blog about.

  • Love your honesty here. Loved reading this and learning more about you and your heart for your blog.

  • Love you lots and lots, best friend. XOXO

    • Amy

      so i just envisioned me saying the same thing and then us doing a joint high five (15?!)
      also yes, i am creeping through comments, nothing new here…

  • Oh girl, what a SMALL world…I posted on authenticity this morning too. Clearly this time of year has sparked that within some of us. It’s such a struggle. All we can strive to be is ourselves in this world–be genuine to what we believe in and what we stand for, and all else will fall into place. Loved reading this!

  • Beth, this is so good! Thank you for your honesty and for sharing a little bit about the life behind the blog. It’s so encouraging to hear that I’m not the only one who is struggling with this right now. I’m so glad for the blogging community, and I’m learning to reach out to them and be authentic, too.

  • Beth, this is so good! Thank you for your honesty and for sharing a little bit about the life behind the blog. It's so encouraging to hear that I'm not the only one who is struggling with this right now. I'm so glad for the blogging community, and I'm learning to reach out to them and be authentic, too.

  • Thank you so much, Elizabeth! Praise God! This seriously could not have come at a better time! Thank you for your encouragement.:)

  • Thank you so much, Elizabeth! Praise God! This seriously could not have come at a better time! Thank you for your encouragement.:)

  • Thank you for your honesty, and your continued inspirational voice.

  • Thank you for your honesty, and your continued inspirational voice.

  • Yes to all of this. Blogging is hard and I don’t think people actually realize how difficult it can be. It’s hard because it takes away from spending time with your loved ones. It’s hard because it pushes you to come up with new content. It’s hard because you have to figure out the line on what is appropriate to post and what isn’t. Because, like you said, not everything is meant to be shared on the internet (even if you really want to share some things).

  • Yes to all of this. Blogging is hard and I don't think people actually realize how difficult it can be. It's hard because it takes away from spending time with your loved ones. It's hard because it pushes you to come up with new content. It's hard because you have to figure out the line on what is appropriate to post and what isn't. Because, like you said, not everything is meant to be shared on the internet (even if you really want to share some things).

  • this was such a refreshing post πŸ™‚ it’s such a struggle to be vulnerable when your story intertwines with others and you can’t share their stories. this post is encouraging πŸ™‚

  • this was such a refreshing post πŸ™‚ it's such a struggle to be vulnerable when your story intertwines with others and you can't share their stories. this post is encouraging πŸ™‚

  • Thanks for sharing beth, I hope things get easier for you soon!

  • Thanks for sharing beth, I hope things get easier for you soon!

  • Love your insight! It’s so true. I’ve done a post before about how I’m not perfect, etc etc, but sometime it’s still so hard to be transparent and for people to understand we are just regular people sharing our story! It’s hard to find the balance!

  • Love your insight! It's so true. I've done a post before about how I'm not perfect, etc etc, but sometime it's still so hard to be transparent and for people to understand we are just regular people sharing our story! It's hard to find the balance!

  • Patty

    Elizabeth, I really appreciate the honesty in this post!! Authenticity online and esp. in blogging are the types of blogs I am more and more drawn to. Yes I love the fun giveaways and DIY’s but sharing the realness of our joys and struggles, along with hope and faith are the things that last. I always find your place here to be that encourgament for me as I find my voice:) Thank you for this post today…soo needed for me:)

  • Patty

    Elizabeth, I really appreciate the honesty in this post!! Authenticity online and esp. in blogging are the types of blogs I am more and more drawn to. Yes I love the fun giveaways and DIY's but sharing the realness of our joys and struggles, along with hope and faith are the things that last. I always find your place here to be that encourgament for me as I find my voice:) Thank you for this post today…soo needed for me:)

  • Joy

    Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability. Praying for you right now. Blessings in this Christmas season.

  • Joy

    Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability. Praying for you right now. Blessings in this Christmas season.

  • Blogging is so hard, it’s times like the one that you’re going through that I tend to pull away a bit too, and that’s ok because like you said, we can’t share a story that isn’t ours to share. You’re an incredible person for taking in your nieces and nephews. Praying for your family and whatever it is you’re going through xo

  • Blogging is so hard, it's times like the one that you're going through that I tend to pull away a bit too, and that's ok because like you said, we can't share a story that isn't ours to share. You're an incredible person for taking in your nieces and nephews. Praying for your family and whatever it is you're going through xo

  • Your vulnerability is incredible. Blogging isn’t easy, but you are an incredible blogger! Praying for you sweet friend!

  • Your vulnerability is incredible. Blogging isn't easy, but you are an incredible blogger! Praying for you sweet friend!

  • Really loved this post, Beth– thanks for sharing πŸ™‚ I’ve learned that our blogs go through seasons just as we do, and it’s okay to have that up-and-down. I hope this season is filled with peace!

  • Really loved this post, Beth– thanks for sharing πŸ™‚ I've learned that our blogs go through seasons just as we do, and it's okay to have that up-and-down. I hope this season is filled with peace!

  • Amy

    amen and amen.
    i love when a post bleeds authenticity and transparency – and yours did just that.
    opening up, even a sliver, can be scary and frustrating.
    i commend you for doing it, and want to wrap my arms around you and remind you that you are not alone within the struggle, and finding the balance is always hard.
    i think YOU needed to write this post more than anything, to remind yourself of where you are, what God is doing, how you’re connecting, and to break down any walls that have been built.
    Cheers to freedom from chains and to take a deep breath of relief.
    God is moving within you Beth, we see it, even if you can’t always. <3

  • Amy

    amen and amen.
    i love when a post bleeds authenticity and transparency – and yours did just that.
    opening up, even a sliver, can be scary and frustrating.
    i commend you for doing it, and want to wrap my arms around you and remind you that you are not alone within the struggle, and finding the balance is always hard.
    i think YOU needed to write this post more than anything, to remind yourself of where you are, what God is doing, how you're connecting, and to break down any walls that have been built.
    Cheers to freedom from chains and to take a deep breath of relief.
    God is moving within you Beth, we see it, even if you can't always. <3

  • Amy

    so i just envisioned me saying the same thing and then us doing a joint high five (15?!)
    also yes, i am creeping through comments, nothing new here…

  • So. So. True. I struggle with the same thing fairly often for a myriad of my own personal reasons. Blogging is as rewarding as it is hard, but it’s so important to remember Who we need to turn to first and to realize that sometimes it’s okay to back up for a moment and rest in His arms. Even if it means missing a posting day or not doing the dishes, or whatever we may need to put down in order to build ourselves back up.

  • So. So. True. I struggle with the same thing fairly often for a myriad of my own personal reasons. Blogging is as rewarding as it is hard, but it's so important to remember Who we need to turn to first and to realize that sometimes it's okay to back up for a moment and rest in His arms. Even if it means missing a posting day or not doing the dishes, or whatever we may need to put down in order to build ourselves back up.

  • Stephanie Marie

    Beth this was amazing, thank you for sharing your feelings! You wrote exactly what myself, and other bloggers, feel on our hard days! It’s a struggle to write something positive on your blog when life isn’t so positive. God gives us strength during these times and I know He is giving you strength even now! Never give up on HIM or you dreams! <3

  • I’m sorry your heart is heavy, Beth. It’s amazing how God can lift up our spirits if we just lean on him…. easier said than done, I know! Blogging is definitely harder when heavy life stuff is going on behind the scenes, but sometimes it can be a great outlet for me, I hope it’s that way for you, too.

  • I'm sorry your heart is heavy, Beth. It's amazing how God can lift up our spirits if we just lean on him…. easier said than done, I know! Blogging is definitely harder when heavy life stuff is going on behind the scenes, but sometimes it can be a great outlet for me, I hope it's that way for you, too.

  • …And this is one of the many reasons why I love your heart. Seriously. πŸ™‚

    I have always loved your authentic and heart-filled posts the best because I can always relate to them the most. I am sorry to hear that your heart is heavy and that times have been tough right now! So much of me wishes there was a better way we, as bloggers who live miles away, could help out more. πŸ™‚ But just know that your blog posts are always encouraging and that I’m here for you, too!

  • …And this is one of the many reasons why I love your heart. Seriously. πŸ™‚

    I have always loved your authentic and heart-filled posts the best because I can always relate to them the most. I am sorry to hear that your heart is heavy and that times have been tough right now! So much of me wishes there was a better way we, as bloggers who live miles away, could help out more. πŸ™‚ But just know that your blog posts are always encouraging and that I'm here for you, too!

  • Authenticity is so difficult, but I don’t think that your choosing not to share the hard as you walked through is inauthentic or that what you posted instead is inauthentic, either. Some things aren’t meant to be shared with large audiences and some things God asks us to ponder over instead of sharing immediately or maybe ever. That’s okay, and it’s not being fake. In reality I think it’s being true to what you’ve been called, and that’s more critical than being transparent in every forum all the time. I’m praying for you, Beth! You’ve met your definition of authentic in this post, and I know as you keep rooted in Jesus, you always will.

  • Authenticity is so difficult, but I don't think that your choosing not to share the hard as you walked through is inauthentic or that what you posted instead is inauthentic, either. Some things aren't meant to be shared with large audiences and some things God asks us to ponder over instead of sharing immediately or maybe ever. That's okay, and it's not being fake. In reality I think it's being true to what you've been called, and that's more critical than being transparent in every forum all the time. I'm praying for you, Beth! You've met your definition of authentic in this post, and I know as you keep rooted in Jesus, you always will.

  • Beautiful. Thank you for sharing sweet friend:) I know how this all goes, and am so thankful we have a Savior that we can put first, and let everything else fall in line:) xoxo

  • Beautiful. Thank you for sharing sweet friend:) I know how this all goes, and am so thankful we have a Savior that we can put first, and let everything else fall in line:) xoxo

  • Ashley Collins

    All I can say is thank you. Thank you for your honesty. The part of blogging where you said, “the consistent push for more, for better.” That hit home for me. I love blogging, but it is easy to fall on that side of things-for the more and better, and fail to stay true.

  • Ashley Collins

    All I can say is thank you. Thank you for your honesty. The part of blogging where you said, "the consistent push for more, for better." That hit home for me. I love blogging, but it is easy to fall on that side of things-for the more and better, and fail to stay true.

  • I love this so much!

  • I love this so much!

  • Authenticity is very hard sometimes. But when one person is brave, like you are being, and open up; that bravery frees other people be brave and let their walls down a little too. So thank you!
    I definitely have imperfections. Sometimes I am painfully aware of them and sometimes I am not. Sometimes I have really hard seasons too. Praying for you! Isn’t it great that God gave us community to help each other pick up our messes and see the beauty in them?!

  • Authenticity is very hard sometimes. But when one person is brave, like you are being, and open up; that bravery frees other people be brave and let their walls down a little too. So thank you!
    I definitely have imperfections. Sometimes I am painfully aware of them and sometimes I am not. Sometimes I have really hard seasons too. Praying for you! Isn't it great that God gave us community to help each other pick up our messes and see the beauty in them?!

  • How encouraging to read, Beth! I am sure this really has challenged a few souls to be more authentic and vulnerable when sharing their hearts, as well. As someone who’s heart is to grow people into authenticity, this was so great to read. Thanks for being raw and straight up with us! It’s what this world needs. πŸ™‚

  • How encouraging to read, Beth! I am sure this really has challenged a few souls to be more authentic and vulnerable when sharing their hearts, as well. As someone who's heart is to grow people into authenticity, this was so great to read. Thanks for being raw and straight up with us! It's what this world needs. πŸ™‚

  • This was so humbling to read, and I think we all struggle with authenticity at one point or another. I love that you stay true to what you believe in despite that struggle. <3

  • This is so good, Beth! I love having you as a blogging friend and know that being on the other side of the screen can be hard. Praying for you, sweet girl! You’re doing an awesome job…may you find rest and rejuvenation in the arms of Jesus!

  • This is so good, Beth! I love having you as a blogging friend and know that being on the other side of the screen can be hard. Praying for you, sweet girl! You're doing an awesome job…may you find rest and rejuvenation in the arms of Jesus!

  • You got this girl! And you are doing totally awesome! Jesus uses you in so many ways and this is one of them. Sharing your heart with others. πŸ™‚

  • You got this girl! And you are doing totally awesome! Jesus uses you in so many ways and this is one of them. Sharing your heart with others. πŸ™‚

  • Jen

    Authenticity is hard, but you are doing such a great job with it. “Courageous” was the first word that came to mind when I read this post. Thank you for sharing your heart with your readers!

  • Jen

    Authenticity is hard, but you are doing such a great job with it. "Courageous" was the first word that came to mind when I read this post. Thank you for sharing your heart with your readers!

  • I loved this post, thank you for sharing honestly and openly! Ever since I started blogging more frequently it’s been a HUGE challenge in #1 not caring about what other people think about me (especially if I write something related to work and know people from work that I don’t know very well but still see often will read it!) and #2 not comparing myself to other bloggers. I think both of those things can be tied to authenticity as well; blogging is one of those things helping me grow and that’s something I never expected! Thanks for the great post! πŸ™‚

  • I loved this post, thank you for sharing honestly and openly! Ever since I started blogging more frequently it's been a HUGE challenge in #1 not caring about what other people think about me (especially if I write something related to work and know people from work that I don't know very well but still see often will read it!) and #2 not comparing myself to other bloggers. I think both of those things can be tied to authenticity as well; blogging is one of those things helping me grow and that's something I never expected! Thanks for the great post! πŸ™‚

  • Kim

    While I am not very religious, I really appreciated this post – and your blog in general. πŸ™‚ I just took the plunge and bought my own domain and hosting, and have been getting ready to ramp up my blog. I got really discouraged at the end of the week – just so tired, worn out from my 8-5 job, not sure what my goals were aside from eventually wanting to transition a lifestyle-ish blog into a way to connect with others, have a community online, something that helps other bloggers, and a way to share my marketing knowledge.

    Your blog has been a huge inspiration for me in terms of balancing a lifestyle-ish blog along with being a great resource for other bloggers. Plus, I LOVE your design branding! Keep on doing what you do. <3

    • Oak & Oats

      I am so very excited for you Kim!! I know it is hard but you’ve got this! I am also here to help with any questions you may have! Thank you also for your kind words and encouragement!!!

      • Kim

        Thanks so much! It’s so great knowing there are established bloggers out there so ready and willing to help. πŸ™‚

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