Valentine’s day is such a funny holiday for me. i mean, i love all reasons to celebrate so that is always a plus but i am not all crazy and passionate about this holiday. i LOVE the history (a pastor who continued to marry young couples even when the king made it illegal – cool!) i LOVE the elementary school parties (decorate your own shoebox turned mailbox and give everyone candy?!! – best!) i LOVE the fun dip valentine’s and sweetheart candies (sweet tart style!) but i am not big with the drama, the flowers, the chocolates, the expensive gifts, the fancy dates….
WHAT VALENTINES DAY MEANS TO ME:
1. growing up valentine’s day was always a family holiday: my parents had regular date nights, celebrated their birthdays, Christmas, and their anniversary so they could afford to make Valentine’s day a family day. we ordered Chinies food, ate in on the living room floor, and shared valentine’s cards with each other. i never was on “the hunt” for something to do on valentine’s day because i always had something to do!
2. let’s skip the chocolate: and expensive gifts for that matter. i know, that sounds crazy but for us expensive gifts/ purchases are things we do together. we have a shared bank account. all our money is ours. when we do Christmas we both are allowed to spend a certain amount of money on each other. for our anniversary we plan a trip together (we love experiences and memories). i don’t want $100 flowers or need new jewelry. i am not dissing on girls who love this and feel valued by gifts like these but it is not me. i just like wonderful words in a card (or in my ear) and time together.
3. it shouldn’t matter if you are in a relationship or not: girls, it is okay that you do not have man for valentine’s day! some of my favorite ever valentine’s day have been before i was with Bruce (even though we have had some funny married valentines days as well – chick-fil-a!). even as a married lady i give valentine’s to my friends because i love them. and everyone loves notes/ candy! it is a fun, silly, holiday. enjoy it!
4. cards mean a lot: it doesn’t matter if you send out cards on valentines day or if you send them them after the holiday! i think one of the most valuable things are cards. personal words writen to someone. mmm… arives in the mail?!? oh! i love it all. speaking of lovely cards in the mail – some cards from Kati Ramer showed up in my mailbox. and so soon they will be back making their way to other loves of my life!
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY
to all you readers, single, dating, married!
don’t stress about what “everyone else” is doing, just enjoy spending time with those you love.
what does Valentine’s day mean to you?!
(ps: there is no wrong answer!!)