You Are Lovely

This post has been a long time coming. Amy reached out to me asking if I would participate in her You are lovely series and I said yes. That was in January. Seven months later I still had not gotten around to creating the post. I had a million reasons – lack of time, work, other projects, my social life, sleep, and everything else. It wasn’t until this week that it hit me, I didn’t want to share my flaws. I can talk about hard times, the struggles, the sin that I have overcome but the stuff I am in the middle of is too raw and too real. I finally got the courage to type something up and I shared it on her blog. Today I want to share it with you!

My husband Bruce took that picture when I was enlisting him to help me with a picture of me at my Stitch Fix box. He kept getting the camera so close to my face and telling me to smile. The alarms started going off in my heart – “That lense is so close to my face – the pimples, the wrinkles, the uneven tones, the gaps in my teeth, THE PIMPLES” I told him to stop playing around and take a picture of me and my mail! His response snagged at my heart because he simply said ” I can’t! You are so beautiful, I just want to keep taking pictures of your face!” and my gut reaction was, “that cannot be true.”

Sweet ones, this is a huge deal because I heard my heart. I felt the frustration of a camera so close to the pimples on my face. I cringed at my reflection in the mirror when I got that close and only assumed everyone else did as well. I let him take his pictures and went on with my day.

Later as I was uploading them to my computer, I felt the overwhelming urge to post it to instagram. This picture that created so much angst in me needed to be shared. My husband is not the only one to tells me that I am beautiful, my Savior does too. I am chosen, loved, worthy, valuable, and precious. When my heart called Bruce a liar, I also called the Lord a liar. I sat there with my instagram ready to be published and asked forgiveness.

I have a story of body image issues and some days I am riding high on grace & truth and other days I cry over a pimple. This world throws so many words, expectations, and ideals our way. It is hard to not let them sink in even when we are surrounded by encouraging people (shout out to my amazing husband!!) and even when we are seeking the Lord.

Today I want to tell you that you are lovely. I want to be the person to speak truth into the darkness and into those lies. I want to encourage you because it is a journey. Sometimes my negative self talk is too much to handle but sometimes my heart finds hope & peace in the Lord. Chose truth today over the lies. Don’t let Satan steal your beauty. Let your light shine through, let your love speak volumes, and let you smile light up the room. Because you are beautiful. You are loved. and you have the power to share truth just by being you.

“you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you”
Isaiah 43: 4

If you have not had the chance to watch Colbie Caillat’s new music video “Try,” I encourage you to do so now. You might need a tissue, I sure did! It is wonderful to see a bit of light shine out of such a dark, fake world.

Author: Oak & Oats

  • ohhh Elizabeth, thank you for this post, and for your honesty!
    oh for grace to know that we are beautiful because He made us and He loves us.
    and by the way, you are beautiful. and that picture – so lovely!! 🙂

  • A beautiful post – and so are you!

  • Rachel

    This was so good! You are beautiful, I was thinking before I read the post what a cute picture!!! You look SO happy in that picture and not fake! If you know what I mean?! I have never watched that video before, SO good I love the song too:)

  • You are oh so beautiful, best friend!!
    That Colbie song makes me a little teary.

  • This is so so beautiful, Beth! That picture of you is so pretty! I wouldn't have noticed any of those things. I'm so thankful that you're sharing this because I know there are girls out there struggling with the same thing and they needed to hear this!

  • Amy

    you are most definitely lovely!
    i enjoyed reading your post and having you in the series so much!
    you spoke with such truth and wisdom – i'm so glad your readers are getting a chance to know you a little deeper!

  • Sometimesphotojenik

    I LOVE this! Potentially one of my favorite posts of yours! It's such a good reminder to me… Especially on days or weeks (like this one) where I'm feeling especially self conscious thanks to a breakout, and find myself taking a million pictures to find the perfect one that covers up all the imperfections. Thanks for the encouragement today! And I LOVE that video!

  • I have been feeling absolutely awful about myself these days and this was just awesome! Thank you for the sweet reminder!

  • How have I never seen that video!?! Crazy, it's insanely good. And you, my friend, are gorgeous!

  • An amazing post. You should know I was drawn to read it BECAUSE of that photo of you… so stunning, so genuine. And I started getting choked up as I read "he simply said " I can't! You are so beautiful, I just want to keep taking pictures of your face!" and my gut reaction was, "that cannot be true." The insecurities can be so real but it's so amazing to see ourselves through the eyes of those who love us and more importantly through the eyes of our precious Savior. Thank you!

  • You are lovely. And so genuine. Thanks for sharing this!

    I love the "Try" video. It's such a powerful video and song and more true than we are willing to own most days.

  • I love that picture, you look so happy. Every time I make Bryan take pictures for me I am surprised when I upload them, the ones that I don't think I'm going to like a lot of the time end up being my favorites. The times when he just grabs my camera sitting in my office and captures a random moment always seem to be my favorite pictures, yet every time I need to take pictures for the blog instead of using those candid moments I put on makeup and pose away.

  • WOW THAT VIDEO WAS EVERYTHING! I loved it! Thank you for always sharing you! You're so wonderful and inspiring! xo – Jessika, http://www.jessclassy.com

  • I've had very similar experiences with feeling like the husband is getting the camera WAY too close to my face. Husbands can really be a good reminder to stop being so picky about our looks.

  • So ture!

  • Thanks! I am so glad you loved the video!

  • Yeah! The surprise ones are always so candid and fun!

  • Thanks so much for your encouragement Stacia!

  • I am so glad you were touched and encouraged! And thanks also for the encouraging words. It is so important to reminding other's of their beauty and fight the lies that Satan throws at them.

  • I am so glad you watched it now!!!!!!

  • I am so thankful and encouraged that my raw and vulnerable post met you right where you are at! I hope that you find encouragement and hope. You are beautiful and so valuable!

  • Thanks so much for your encouragement and such a great compliment! It is funny how Satan lies to us all the same way sometimes!

  • Amy,
    You are such an encouragement!

  • Madison,
    Thanks for your sweet words! They mean so much!

  • THANKS!

  • Megan,
    Thank you 🙂

  • Ursula, so true!

  • me too. every time

  • Thank you so much!

  • Emma,
    I am so thankful for your sweet words and encouragement!

  • I am so glad that you loved the video! and also, thanks so much for the sweet words!

  • Paige

    Loved stumbling upon this article! I just found your blog and am reading some of your favorite posts. Such a great reminder- how Christ sees us as His beloved children. I love taking candid, smiling pictures- they always turn out better!

  • Paige! Thanks so much for your sweet words! You are such an encouragement!